The first rule is…

by Mitch on 13/06/2004

Everything I’ve learned about living life, I have learned from Fight Club. Everyone needs to know someone like Tyler Durden; not always to the extreme of blowing shit up, but definitely someone who is not ruled by their possessions and doesn’t delude themselves by chasing things they can never have.

I believe it’s healthy to wake up and realize that our lives have limits and that sometimes we aren’t as special or as important as we may dream of being. Sometimes we have to accept the fact that the car, house, family and dreams we had growing up are going to be dramatically adjusted by reality.

I’ve heard too many people say that “anything is possible.” I believe a lot of things are possible, but sometimes you’ve just got to end it there. As much as I want to be, I will never be a writer or the artist I dream of being. More than anything I wish I was an actor of any description, but reality tells me it just won’t happen. Here in Australia it’s called a “pipe dream.”

Don’t give up and don’t take second best, but most importantly don’t spend your entire life dreaming of a better place and spend more time being where you are. Some things in life are just as worthy of our gratitude as money, (wo)men and sports cars.

Man, I see in fight club the strongest and smartest men who’ve ever lived. I see all this potential, and I see squandering. God damn it, an entire generation pumping gas, waiting tables; slaves with white collars. Advertising has us chasing cars and clothes, working jobs we hate so we can buy shit we don’t need. We’re the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War’s a spiritual war… our Great Depression is our lives. We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won’t. And we’re slowly learning that fact. And we’re very, very pissed off.

No truer words have ever been spoken. Achieve what you can, but sometimes you just have to be happy with what you have and accept that maybe that is just your lot in life. There is no shame in being ordinary and there is certainly no shame in not being famous. Not everyone can be movie stars, not everyone can be famous. Just be happy with who you are.

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  1. 13/06/2004The Backflipboy says:

    Okay, I’m gonna disagree a little, agree a little and offer my own thoughts – take no offence.

    I’ve never seen Fight Club so I can’t make an informed comment on this Tyler Durden character, but just by the one line above, maybe he just gave up on his dreams because he didn’t believe in himself enough and believed more in what people told him throughout his life.

    I don’t think it is delusional to chase a goal – leaving school and thinking that your first job will be in the upper strata of an organisation is a delusion, but having the goal of one day being there isn’t.

    I do belive that anything is possible if you are willing to work hard at it and make a few sacrifices along the way otherwise there is no reason to bother getting out of bed in the morning.

    “As much as I want to be, I will never be a writer or the artist I dream of being. More than anything I wish I was an actor of any description, but reality tells me it just won’t happen.”

    I read your blog, I’ve role played with you and I’ve seen your artworks – who told you that it wasn’t worth reading or viewing? Have you ever submitted any of your external writing to anyone for objective criticism or have you just looked at it yourself and decided that you aren’t good enough to pursue it in any form? Self assessment isn’t always the best form of criticism.

    Pipe Dreams have also been known to come very true.

    Certainly, a healthy reality check every now and then doesn’t go astray – most of the time our dreams are just that and have no effect in reality if we already know what we want to achieve in our lives. Where we end up really depends on how far we want to personally go.

    You have some sort of idea what it is you are hoping to be doing once you finish university, but you also have other dreams as well – would it be wrong to work towards those if you feel you have the ability to make it there?

    Yes, I agree that we should be happy with where we are in the here and now if that is where we want to be and no-one should assume that we want to go any further. Ordinary works for most people.

    “We’ve all been raised on television to believe that one day we’d all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars.”

    If a person cannot discerne between reality and TV, why the hell are they breathing oxygen anyway?

    Okay, so my rant probably makes less sense than yours, but I think you are selling yourself way too short if you think you should just accept your lot in life and be happy with it.

    I think I need a drink now.

  2. 13/06/2004Mitch says:

    Thanks for the input Kev – I have always valued your opinion so much. A few things you commented on are probably because I didn’t explain myself well enough. I am not “selling myself short,” because I believe that if I get the chance I will become somewhat of a writer – it’s my biggest dream and I want to work at it.

    When you said, “I don’t think it is delusional to chase a goal,” I couldn’t agree more. It totally isn’t, but too many people dream of things that are very unatanable. I know 40 and 50 year olds who earn decent salaries of around $50k/year, and they still believe that they will be millionaires one day. I am sorry, but short of winning lottery or getting lucky on the stock markets, they won’t. So rather than waiting around for this dream to come true, they should be happy with what they have and start appreciating what they have.

  3. 14/06/2004sally_anne says:

    You both have very valid points…but another point i have to add is if someone is waiting around for opportunities to come to them around rather than chasing any chance of those opportunities…they will be waiting a rather long time…if you want something bad enough than i say pursue it. I dont mean as in tomorrow you should be chasing them like a mad hatter…but dont forget what your dreams are and dont settle for second best if second best is not gonna make you happy.

    I grew up with quite a negative childhood, one of those child hoods where your parents just sat back waiting for what ever was thrown at them instead of getting out there and doin something about it…and i dont critises (spelling?) them in any way i just dont think they understood the whole philosophy (spelling? again) of getting in and aiming for what they want and working towards it. And i believe that philosophy totally.

    Anyways that just my point (opinion)


  4. 14/06/2004ufo8mycat says:

    ever since i started reading chuck palahniuk i’ve turned into the biggest cynic. it’s changed my life. i’m not sure for the better.

  5. 15/06/2004The Backflipboy says:

    I think that it’s healthy to have a little cynicism in your life. After all, no-one should believe everything they are told or read in the media without doubting it’s validity.